A long time ago when I was but a babe in the woods, the man who would eventually sire my child gave me this book about relationships.
Ever since Jerry Maguire yelled, 'Show Me the Money!' people, especially women, have been looking for the partner who's gonna say, "You Complete Me."
That book though, opened my eyes to the fact that nobody can complete you except yourself and getting into a committed relationship without being complete is dooming it to failure.
The way the book put it is, we are all circles, but most of us are broken and so our circles are incomplete. As long as we have not 'completed our circle' we have no business trying to join our lives with anyone else's.
Once the circle is complete, and we find someone whose circle is also complete, we can form fully functional relationships.
The very essence of #relationshipgoals
In real life though, that's not what happens is it? People are too busy not wanting to be alone; satisfying their parents' need to see them married; wanting a constant sex partner; looking for the social prestige of having a spouse; looking for a family to 'love them'; gold-digging...whatever it is, people get married for the wrong reasons every day.
I don't think the problem is so much that they marry for the wrong reasons as they lie to themselves about their reasons. The foundation of the relationship is therefore made of quicksand.
In Nadia and Kareem's defense, at least they went into this marriage with absolutely no illusions as to why it was happening.
I wonder if it helped.
You tell me.
Ever since Jerry Maguire yelled, 'Show Me the Money!' people, especially women, have been looking for the partner who's gonna say, "You Complete Me."
The way the book put it is, we are all circles, but most of us are broken and so our circles are incomplete. As long as we have not 'completed our circle' we have no business trying to join our lives with anyone else's.
Once the circle is complete, and we find someone whose circle is also complete, we can form fully functional relationships.
The very essence of #relationshipgoals
I don't think the problem is so much that they marry for the wrong reasons as they lie to themselves about their reasons. The foundation of the relationship is therefore made of quicksand.
In Nadia and Kareem's defense, at least they went into this marriage with absolutely no illusions as to why it was happening.
I wonder if it helped.
You tell me.
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